A day especially made for Mothers

To this day, I don't know how this particular day called "Mother's Day" came about. I guess it really doesn't matter because today or tomorrow should be a mother day.

Many of those the know me have a very odd view of me and how I preceive women. I think for the most part it has been my fault for not actually being up front about it. But the bottom line is, a woman, whether that is a mother, a girlfriend or a peer that is female, never seem to stop to amaze me. And I tell you why.

I can only speak from my experiences. Unfortunately, I have certain rules about speaking of people in blogs and therefore, I won't name any particular name or refer to any particular person. So I will will be general and give an overall opinion about women that have been in and out of my life, in hope that those who read can get a better glimpse into my world without women.

The issue of women has been if not the most controversial subject of human kind. It is so happen that Dan Brown's book "Da Vinci Code" was an attempt to unveil the true about catholisim by legitimitzing the holy grail as a direct blood line of Jesus Christ. Which is to say that the holy grail is not any mettalic object ("cup") that Jesus had during the last supper, but holy grail is a woman, Mary Magdalene. If this is not strike the most controversial subject that human kind has faced, I wouldn't know what would be. But let me take from another perspective, perhaps from one that is not so controversial, but simple, that is what is so precious that about being a woman.

Even for Mary Magdalene, the issue of her the carrying blood line of Jesus is what this whole world is fighting over, but besides from that, most will agree that she truly dedicated servant of God. Her complete care, passion, dedication and loyalty to him are an innate chracteristics of a woman. From that perspective, that my friend is gift of a woman. If you don't believe me on this particular subject, that is understand because religion is complex and driven, so I will not to offend anyone (sorry if i did) but let me bring to light my point from another example or perhaps, events that are more tangible to you and I.

I think many of us in our lifetime has experience one form or another of WAR. For me particularly, my expereince has been Vietnam War, though never actually in frontline, but I have grown to see the effect of women in war.

If you are Vietnamese reading this, you will identify exactly what I am talking about. Oh.. how many tragic stories of men being away from months and years, leaving his wife at home to carry out the most important task anyone can take. I don't get it today, when I talk about this with women, they feel that I have put them down. The fact of matter is, men and women are physically build differently, thus we are in a way, have no choice to physical challenges. It's not something "heroic" or "prideful" about carrying an 80 pounds backpack with a rifle running around in a jungle only to know that that eventually you or your enemy will die. Further more, I belive people glamorize to this much. Haven't anyone though about this, that if world would be so much better if we didn't have a Hilter or a Stalin or a Ho Chi Minh or the Khmer Rouge or a Mao. No body wants this and particular not "single" man would want to put himself in that situation. Maybe there are truly axis of evil out there, but for most ordinary human being, I don't think they would like this.

So, therefore, during this time when men are away, the women has complete control of all destinies, from kids to husband. She hold the key to everyone's life. She is strong, faithful, determined, yet soft, loving and caring. I am sure there are men out there can do that, like great fathers, but that is simple god's gift to a woman.

Well, I probably could come up with couple more examples, but why. You get the point. Women is the backbone to everything. Yes, guys, they are, we are just the arms and flesh, but they are the structure and foundation. That is why I believe one cannot work without the other. If only most girls and guys out there to find a balance and understand each other strenghts and weaknesses, how healthy this world would be.

With that, I wish everyone a happy mothers day, the powerful ladies of our lives.

An Old Friend

I was utterly surprised and nervous to receive an AIM message today from an old friend of mine. It took me 2 1/2 year to actually come to peace and term with it but now that we finally made contact, I surprised myself of how we reacted.

7 years is a long time. Think about it, that is nearly 2555 days, 61320 hours, 3,679,200 mins since we last talked. 7 is also a lucky number according to many superstitious people. 7 - you can think about the the 7 virtuals.

I think more than ever how people have changed through the course of life. How for some, one experience can shape the rest of thier lives, while others stumbled, tried, failed through numerous trails, but finally get there. I can only say on my behalf, although I am confident for the both, that we made some errors along the way, but I think somehow, we managed to come around the corner. Certainly, 7 years is ample time for any one person or people to go through significant changes in his or her life.

For us, it has been that way and I think many of you would agree that as well discovering oneself and facing our darkest deamons takes time and courage. This could be something you're not good at, shy or fearful of confronting, but for me I simply rather not know. I would be the first to admit that I eschew from it as much as possible. You have to actively wanted to reslove it, if you'll ever going to grow as a person.

For 7 years, I chose the approach of locking it away and for the most part it has worked. But you know, it just never goes away. Kind of reminded me the film "What lies beneath".

Today, I am grateful that we decided to talk again. You learn a very valuable lession in life, that is FORGIVENESS. I see to many people hold things in their live for other people's wrong doing. Something that wrong doing could be situational or inexperience or simple a mistake. To condemn such act would only leave your life at a holding point, let alone torn by the curious mind or questioning your actions. What could you have done and what couldn't. Believe me when I say, you will never fully understand why or how it happened. Of course, I am not talking about people with nefarious intentions. For those types of intentions, I wouldn't even waste a breathe. But for others, if I could clearly put it, mistakes happen in life because we want to discover things this world out for ourself. Even we are told not to do it, we still do it because they are of our own conception, perceptions. Through our very one eyes and ears are a compilation of events, experiences that is blueprint of your life.

So after 7 years, I think we both realized and understand that our story and should I say any story out here is a YIN and YANG. One usually cause the other to happen and thus, there is not need to bury these questions. It will only propogate further and you will soon just miss the enjoyment of life. Instead, as time is the most valueable cure for pain, understand your mistakes and try to make new bridges the "time out around".

I urge many of you to just simple confront your issues and your problems. Solved them and free yourself form the burden of carry them around, like myself of 7 years. In the end, if you are good and have no ill-will intentions, you will be rewarded.

I do wish the best for this old friend and hope for pure happiness.

Life has a way to solving out itself.

Thank you OLD Friend.